I see the relationship of the 5th house to sexuality as more identity focused and part in parcel of the expressive personality. So for instance the 5th house dictates 'I am "female" '.But what does that mean in this time/space reality? Do I identify with being "female"? What restrictions or freedoms are there in being "female"?
The 5th house is the discovery that you have a penis/vagina.That you dress differently from boys/girls & perhaps even have different preferences in what you find "recreational".
The 5th house is dating to discover about oneself I.e trying what's out there and not focusing on the other more than you are focused on what the self is all about.
This means answering questions of what it means to get a "reaction " from the same sex or opposite sex? What does being heterosexual / gay/bisexual mean for me?
Does my external expression of my sexual orientation enhance me or does inhibit me? Do I emphasize my "feminine/masculine" qualities in my identity? The 5th house is very much about sexuality and curiosity in terms of identity.
So it is always unfolding,always being re-awakened and revisited.Much like the identity,it is always never "done".
With that being said however,the expression or active connection of this energy is the 8th i.e "So I am gay female(5th connection with self) ,what does that mean in terms of desires /wants & needs for connection with others?" (8th connection with others)
This is why the coming out to self (whether gay or otherwise ) is important to establish first.As this is 5th house of self.And it is through this coming out to self(5th) that then results in clarity of connection with others and sharing oneself with others (8th).
The 8th house is heavier & more serious in essence because the question here is "Is there anyone out there just like me?" And if we do find them, we hope to attain consummate intimacy with them (8th).
The square nature between the two means that if there is a discomfort in accepting oneself
from the core (5th), there will always be problems in getting intimate with others (8th) because you will reject them too through rejecting of yourself first.
Now that the lecture is out of the way lol.I have Sun conjunct Neptune,Sun sextile Pluto and Sun conjunct Jupiter.
And so my expression of my sexual identity is going to be embalmed in all those aspects (not to mention declinat
Neptune in aspect to my Sun tends to lend a "neutral" effect to my sex identity as a male. So I come across more sensitive than most males.
I'm also aware of the male "privilege" bestowed upon me & have often wondered when growing up,why there had to be distinctions between "males" & "females".
A male with Saturn/Sun or Mars/Sun,wouldn't question these distinctions and even see them as "necessary".But because Neptune is androgynous energy,it'll find the distinctions "restrictive" or even "confining".
I love clothes that drape over me instead of tight pants. Clothes that are "suggestive" I.e boxer shorts or bum shorts more than "blatant" ones i.e briefs or speedos (as Neptune likes to conceal).
So for the male with Mars/Sun,the showing off of the "package" is natural for them. They see themselves as sexual beings.I see myself as a spiritual being who is inclined to sexual feelings.
It's hard to see myself as "sexy" or even walk around with a vest without wanting to conceal something